Alexs Restaurant, an ethnography Essay -- Personal Narrative Waitress

Alexs Restaurant, an ethnographyThe Wiseguys (scene one) *These four old guys (definitely into their late sixties, early seventies) make out cars at one of the dealerships on the boulevard. I would bet fifty dollars that they every(prenominal) work for Cadillac. They come in once a week, on Friday afternoons. They have intercourse me. They wish well to give me a hard time, ask why I dont love them anymore, when Im going to wear away with them, etc, etc. They be caricatures of car salesmen but are evidently unaware of this. They hold court in Eat Well like its 1965 at the Sands, talking in loud voices and telling stories well-nigh one another to each other. (This guy here, one time he says to me, Paulie)It has been suggested to me that perhaps these old guys are, in fact, aware of their stereotypical niche and of the roles that they fool by coming to have lunch in the restaurant. This is certainly executable and is something that hadnt occurred to me, so natural and seemingly without mockery is their behavior. For the younger generation(s), irony is something that is nearly always acknowledged, either articulated (the perennial gesture of finger-quotation-marks) or thinly disguised as humor. For older people, however, participation in ironical or staged situations need not necessarily be acknowledged. virtually of their boisterous comments--well, nearly all--are addressed to my chest. Ordinarily I would comment on this put a stop to it at once. Ordinarily, that is, if I wasnt at work. As a self-defined feminist, I am outspoken and assertive when I feel that I am being demeaned or stereotyped. At work, however, I find myself confronted with strange challenges. I am forced to walk a line between power and respect. I am not at liberty to chastise or even... ... had become stifling, claustrophobic, and to be able to vex my perspectives as a student to bear on it was a (surprisingly great) relief.From a feminist perspective, this is a rich area for study. I would like to but explore the subject, to study the relationship between the server and the servedas the relationship between the waiter and diner is problematic because of the blatant purchase of gay service that is involved (Finklestein, p. 56). This is true, and is further complicated by gender expectations and prejudices. True, attitudes towards these public-private taboos are changing, but there is much to be learned as we hatch to adapt. Sources Dining Out, by Joanne Finklestein, NYU Press, 1989, Chapters 1-4Woman, Culture and Society, by Michelle Rosaldo, Stanford Press, 1974, pp.17-42. Updated by Jeff Tobin on January 23, 2001